One of the most important life changes for me was seeing my two girls turn in to teenagers. I realized that apart of the life changing experiences they were having I first had to change how I saw them. They were not my babies no more, they had a voice and wanted now to be heard and respected. Of course when they are 5,6,7,8,9,10,11 and 12 they also have a voice. What I mean that they have a voice, is that their opinion and own will are more developed. Listening to them for me became more intensive. Up to their 12 years I was always listening but in the end their decision would be based on 90 % of what I thought was right to do. They are now 17 and 18 , at the time it was not easy but when I started to see them as little people with own opinions and own will , giving them respect as such our conversations improved. I am still their mother and as such they respect me as their mom, meaning that they will always discuss a matter with me before they make their decision. Decisions are now 100% theirs and based on a healthy discussion where all pro’s and contra’s are weighed. Of course when I talk about me I also mean my husband. As we act as one we also give our kids one opinion. Do not think that my husband and I see everything the same, NO , but we settle our differences beforehand. Thus I can say now that “Seeing my teenagers as little people and respecting them” has changed my life. I will now see if this vision also applies to our last and third girl. She is now 12 , times are changing and we are also aging…..