There she is again, always wanting to look at the bright side of changes. Well what if you do not want to look at the bright side? What if there is no bright side?
All I can say is that as long we are here in this form, we might just as well make the best out of our journey.Look around you and really see your surroundings. Who are the group of people around you? For some reason you are in their life and they are in yours. If you want to know why , you can spend your whole life looking for answers or you can just live thoughtful of what results your actions have in the lives you are part of. To me the first group are your biological,adopted or spiritual children if any.You can be a biological parent, a spiritual parent or you can be a parent by law. However arranged you have a caring and responsible role in the lives of these children.The way you decide to handle your responsibilities is up to you , but bare in mind the influence your actions have on this group is enormous.
The second group according to me are your parents (biological, adopted or spiritual)if any. Often, you were cared for by them and now its your turn to care for them. So it is important to give this group respect whether or not they deserve your respect.
The third group is family. This group is not chosen by you but given to you by birth. Your actions can influence this group directly or indirectly. You can be unasked for a role model especially to the younger generation.
The fourth group is the group of good friends. There is often a special bond that seems stronger than any family ties. You are mostly very intimate with this group. They as well as you are well acquainted with eachothers weak and strong points.
The fifth and last group is according to me the group of relatives and other people who are occasionally in your life.With this group sometimes you can share very low or very high moments in your life just because they happened to be at that moment in your life.
All these people influence your life and you influence theirs. The question is how would you want that influence to be?
Would you want them to remember you by negative influences you had in their lives or would you want them to remember the positive influences you had in their lives?
If you noticed in the groups your spouse is not mentioned. I think that your spouse can fall in the groups 3 or 4 depending on the relationship you have.